ASPECTS

Maybe you went through a nasty divorce or you lost your job and/or your home. Or maybe when you were a kid you were picked on a lot, so that you felt isolated and lonely. Or maybe when you wanted to express at home your parents told you to shut up. Regardless of how they were triggered, you experienced emotions that were too painful to deal with in the moment.

Although none of this happened consciously, in essence, what was happening in your here and now wasn’t making you happy so somewhere in your subconscious you made the choice to run to your mind where you began focusing on either the past or the future because you believed doing so would at least give you some control over what was happening in the now, because the now was too painful to accept. You reasoned that while in your mind you could at least ignore the pain. What you didn’t realize was that you had a connection to the compassionate and loving energy of Source right inside yourself. Had you been aware of this, you could have embraced those emotions when they occurred so that they never would have been pushed away into hiding where they later come back to haunt you.

You also didn’t realize that, from the choice you made to push them away rather than embrace them, you were the one who created the pain in the first place. The hurt was only an illusion you created by judging life’s circumstances (in the here and now) as not being good enough and then resisting what was happening. Subconsciously you thought “this should not be happening to me” and then added a judgment by saying, “and I don’t like it.” This resistant thought immediately created the emotion of pain, which was contrary to the loving vibration of your soul. In other words, your soul did not agree with what you thought and the result was pain.

This is important to understand because what it means is that your resistant thought had literally become fact. “I don’t like it” caused emotions that reinforced the thought. Now not only did you think you didn’t like it, you had emotions to prove it! Your heart felt pain. This wouldn’t have happened without the judgmental thought. Further, when you have thoughts that are contrary to what the Source Energy within you thinks about you, the result is going to be negative emotion every time.

After having a few more experiences you thought should not be happening, the pain you were creating was simply too much to bear and you did the only thing anyone would choose to do, you shut down your heart. Meanwhile, you filed each one of these unwanted experiences, with their unwanted thoughts and emotions, somewhere within your mind where you could keep them at a distance; in effect, hide from them. This is the process of creating an aspect. You restricted somewhere within your psyche these aspects that were unwanted and therefore, safely hidden, never to be seen or felt again, or so you hoped.

There are hurting aspects, angry aspects, jealous aspects, depressed aspects, and all sorts of aspects in between. Because these aspects you created were so different from one another, some began fighting with each other and this battle has been felt within you. Some aspects even attempt to control or dominate other aspects. This continuous battling causes a lot of tension to build up within.

As we all well know, emotions do eventually find their way to the surface, especially when there is a lot of tension built up. Once in awhile when circumstances similar to the moment when you created an aspect occurs in your now moment, the aspect makes itself known. Somebody says something and you fly of the hook and wonder, “where the hell did that come from?”, and if it happens often enough without any resolution or understanding as to what’s happening, you learn to control them, so that at the first hint of their presence you immediately push them away again without even giving it a thought. Most of us have become so skilled at shutting down that we’re not aware of it when it’s happening. What this means is that on a subconscious level, we have mastered the ability to scheme with the intent to control everything in our world. Ironically, this is impossible to do, so most of us feel that we are a victim of life’s circumstances and thus, we allow ourselves to be controlled by other people and external events and feel helpless to do anything about it.

What it also means is that you actually begin identifying with the aspects you’ve created, as if that’s who you are. Your perception becomes your reality. A belief system is born. You mold your identity around these beliefs. This causes you to feel less capable of allowing the fullness of who you really are—infinite love and compassion, to be expressed. It is a feeling of being less than whole, or incomplete, like being disconnected or lost on some level, not completely together or capable of living up to your full potential. This results in not even being able to trust yourself.

So, what can you do about your aspects? When your child becomes annoying enough that they’re too much to handle, an option is to send them to their room. If this is what you choose, sooner or later, when they feel safe enough, they come out from hiding. They want to be accepted and they want to play again. Our aspects are no different. Anytime they feel safe enough they pop up out of hiding, hoping that this time we will acknowledge and accept them. The only way these aspects can be freed from acting out is to be fully accepted and honored by you when they pop up, through connecting with your soul, where compassion and love dwells. New Energy Dance Expression offers you a safe environment in which this is entirely possible.

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